Pickpocket - May 2012

Dear readers, 

Owing to the large amount of words and heavy reading in the last two installments, I have decided to use more simplistic explanations and less words so that you guys can read and relax. 

Cheers!

Jason

Editor of Pickpocket

Could you spot out the common behavior pattern among people? Have you combined the background into your pickpocket skill? I am sure you did really well. It is best when you can see through the common behavior within people and also the interaction between people’s behavior and the background.

The Introduction of Principles, Reading NVB 

In the last installment, I emphasized the importance of background environments when reading people and the common behavior in human society. This time I am going to present the opposite; the idiosyncratic nonverbal behavior and the personal baseline.

No.4 －Idiosyncratic Nonverbal Behavior

Idiosyncratic nonverbal behavior simply means the unique behavior of individuals.

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If you want to read someone’s unique behavior, the only group of people you can read accurately are those people who are close to you. This is because they are the people who interact with you the most, including your family members, colleagues, friends and your teachers, as compared to those people you do not usually meet. The more time you spend with a person or interact with, the easier it is to explore this kind of behavior. 

For example, since you know a friend of yours usually bites his lips when he is nervous, then you will know why he would do so before his exams.

No.5 －Setting The Baseline

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Previously I taught you how to set the baseline for the majority. Today, I am going to teach you how to set the baseline for individuals, to pickpocket them every time you interact with them, as it is how you will usually do nonverbal behavior reading.

Just like rule No.4, the baseline should be set individually because every person has his own baseline, because of his own unique experiences. You should observe how those people who are close to you sit, where and how they put their hands and feet, and especially their usual postures and facial expressions, viewing angle (which is how much they tilt, rise or bow their head), even how they lift or put things down. 

Put simply, your task this time is to identify when and how the people who close to you engage in their usual behavior. Choose a subject among your friend or classmate, observe him/her for a month and list out his/her behavior during lunch time or recess, etc. Then identify those behaviors you listed out and group them into usual and special group.

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Then every time he/she is talking, you have the database of him/her to read his/her nonverbal behavior.

In the coming installment, I will write about the principle No.6 Multiple Implications and No.7 Sudden Change of Personal Behavior

Practice makes perfect!

Pick their thoughts! They cannot hide their expression and hold their intentions from your eyes!

Jason Lam

References:

Navarro, J., &Karlins, M. (2009).What every BODY is saying an ex-FBI agent's guide to speed reading people (Kindle ed.). S.I.: William Morrow Paperbacks